By Olugbemisola Michael
The busy schedules of parents in this century contribute to one of the human capital challenges facing the nation. Nelson Mandela regarded children to be our greatest treasures and our future. John F Kennedy considered them to be the world’s most valuable resources and its best hope for future. There is a saying that Bad people produce bad leaders, to ensure that processes are working in a nation we need human capital that are capable of handling all sectors professionally and ethically. Thus the role of parents in shaping the nation is a critical subject that should be addressed by every government.
Parents should not only help their children in building successful careers or instilling confidence in them, but also they should teach these future leaders the habits stated below.
1. Waking up early: Consistently waking up early at or before sunrise horn a disciplined and organised mind. Early risers are significantly better at maintaining schedules, they work harder and smarter.
2. Treating failure like gold: Success depends on ability to learn why and how one fails. Thus, children should know that their mistakes should not break them but make them.
3. Reading everyday: Reading books is one of the best habits to be successful. Reading put ones brain on a mental treadmill and stimulate growth. It also lowers stress level and unwrap anxiety which helps one sleeps better and relaxes one’s body and mind. The biggest advantage of reading every day is knowledge which improves one’s memory, upgrades vocabulary; and one can learn any subject in details.
4. Body Exercise: Studies show that making time for exercise provides some serious mental benefits such as boost in happy chemicals, reduced stress, improved self-confidence, alleviated anxiety, boost in brain power, sharpened memory, and boost in creativity.
5. Meditate: The more children practice meditation, the more they pump up those parts of their brains that help control emotion, hyperactivity and anxiety responses. Continued meditation promotes growth in brain’s insula, which helps regulate gut-level responses to life’s day-to-day issues and social interactions, according to various researches.
6. Ignoring conformity (Be innovative): Many children ignore their own desires and do what others or peers tell them to do because “it sounds right”. They need to dump that rule and start living and doing things according to their values and goals.
7. Self-improvement: Parents should start by consciously observing their children’s thoughts, emotions and responses and guide them on how to make self-improvement an integral part of their lives. Just the way learning should never stop, the same applies for self-improvement. The idea should be to focus on continuous self-development at every stage in their lives and become better versions. Self-improvement increases self-awareness, enhances strengths, helps overcome weakness, improves mental health, inspires courage to step out of comfort zone, instils good learning attitudes, cultivates self-love and much more.
8. Making sacrifice: Children should learn how to sacrifice their play and fun times for reading ahead of the class.
9. Investing money habit: When family and friends comes around they give cash gifts to children. Such money should be invested for them and subsequently parents should let them make their investments’ choices and guide them in making these choices.
10. Creative writing: This is not just entertaining but a good tool to help increase a child’s imagination and reasoning. When they are writing they become creative. The importance of creative writing is that it helps develop their planning skills, organisation and idea implantation. It improves their communication and persuasion skills, it increases their ability to dissect and confront challenges logically.
11. Time management and setting priority: Time management is the process of planning and exercising conscious control of time spent on specific activities to work smarter than harder. It is the act of juggling various things that help increase efficiency and strike a better work-life balance. Children should be exposed to prioritising their activities according to Stephen R. Covey time Management quadrant. Urgent and important should be first on the list…. Study tables below.
12. Relationship building and management: One of the most insightful experiences we can have in our lives is the connection we have with other human beings. Positive and supportive relationships will help us to feel healthier, happier, and more satisfied with our lives. So, here are some tips to help children develop more positive and healthy relationships in all areas of their life: accept and celebrate the fact that we are all different, listen effectively, develop communication skills, learn to give and take feedback, treat people as you would like to be treated yourself and learn to be more understanding and empathetic.
When children are matured in minds, they will be able to solve complex problems of life in a calm way. Some people when they experience unexpected bad circumstances in life, commit suicide, fall drastically ill or lose their mental balance, just because these values are missing.
Parents play major roles in moulding the life of their children because they are the role model. Children imitate everything parents do — the way they eat, walk, talk, listen, laugh, think, interact, even their sense of disciplines and mannerisms. There is no perfect parent, but by experience and observing others, improvement is certain. Ethics is best taught by exemplifying.